Our Dear Lottie Has Passed Away

October 10

Loyal, dependable, calm, an unconditional friend to all; Lottie was a loving sister and the matriarchal energy to all of the divas. She blessed everyone with her wisdom, always cooperative and engaged. Her patience with Minnie was magic. At times when Minnie would work herself into a pushing frenzy on fences or other elephants, Lottie would calm her down with a silent gentle trunk touch.

When night time temperatures forced Lottie inside, she would rumble repeatedly until Minnie finally joined her in the warm barn. Minnie would  stay inside long enough to grab some food and swallow a few trunkfuls of water before dashing out of the rubber flap door. Racing down the hill to the moon-lit habitat, Minnie would plunge into the pond, dragging a log from the muddy bottom. Or dash across the pasture, kicking up clumps of grass with her toe nails like a golfer’s divots in the manicured lawns of a golf course.

Lottie would remain inside benefiting from the “me” time, getting pets and dried cranberries, her favorite treat. Lottie would stand completely still except to gently guide my hand up to her tusk socket. She had very short, almost nonexistent tushes. She loved to get me to massage the inside of the tusk socket. Her eye lids would flutter and she would let out a low rumble. If the massage stopped, her eyes would pop open and again she would softly reach out for my hand and guide it back to the tusk socket. A kinder, gentler elephant you will never meet.

Lottie’s estimated birth year was 1963. Since moving to the Sanctuary at 12pm CT, January 31, 2006, Lottie was the picture of sound health. She had healthy feet, a good appetite, and always remained at her optimum weight. She drank well, stayed physically active and was extremely calm. Mostly she was Minnie’s best friend. These two had a powerfully loving relationship.

Although Lottie seldom engaged in physical play with Minnie, she was never far from her friend.

They grazed, bathed and slept side by side. Sometimes in the early afternoon Minnie would wander away from Lottie as she slept. If Lottie woke and could not see Minnie the drama would unfold. Lottie would let out a loud squeak and then another, raising her head in an anxious posture looking around for Minnie, who would respond with a throaty bellow. When the two finally heard the other they would break into a run, full speed ahead, screaming at the top of their lungs. When they were finally reunited Minnie would spin circles around Lottie whose eyes would twinkle as she chirped and squealed in delight. Trunk touches all over, followed by powerful trumpets and then relaxed sighs, and the greeting was complete.

Without hesitation they would resume their grazing as if no emotional display of affection had taken place. But if you were close by, you would feel the air permeated with love. Then they would wander off again on another adventure. They lived for each others company.

Lottie had a silly side, reserved but silly. One time, when my winter hat had gone missing during a 10pm feed, Lottie was later seen sporting it fashionably on her back. It was hardly recognizable, a bit worse for wear but still an attractive accessory — at least Lottie thought so. It hardly resembled a hat at all as Lottie had chewed it, pulled it apart at the seams and ground it into the dirt before finally tossing it onto her back.

Mostly Lottie will be remembered for her nurturing nature and deep affection for Queenie and Minnie.

After Queenie passed away two years ago Lottie and Minnie grieved desperately. The two grew even closer and helped each other through their loss. Now Minnie has a heartbreaking challenge ahead of her. She and Lottie had been together for four decades: this separation will be difficult. Hopefully Minnie will be able to face her loss with an open heart and not put on the “tough guy” act that was her mode of operation in the past. If Minnie puts up a wall to the pain and acts as if she is not hurting, recovery will be that much more difficult for her. We have to trust that Minnie will be able to allow Debbie and Ronnie back into her life so they can help her through this difficult time.

Comments

19 responses to “Our Dear Lottie Has Passed Away”

  1. Jody@JodysJungle.com Avatar

    Carol, although my first loves will always be the founding herd, I want to thank you for saving Lottie…I’m so sorry you couldn’t be with her when she passed.
    Strength and Love, Jody

  2. Tory Avatar
    Tory

    In my opinion this is one of the most beautiful tributes you have ever written, Carol. I feel I know Lottie so much more now and can’t imagine how much Minnie will miss her.

  3. Beth Avatar
    Beth

    Oh Carol, I am saddened and shocked by this. My thoughts and prayers with everyone and with you….Lottie, rest in peace, beautiful girl……..

  4. MaggieNYS Avatar
    MaggieNYS

    Very sad to hear this news….poor Minnie, what is she going to do? Thank you for your eloquent posting, Carol.

  5. Cora Avatar

    Namaste Dear Lottie. Thank you Carol, for sharing your precious photos and memories of Lottie with us.

  6. khertzel Avatar
    khertzel

    Carol – My heart is breaking knowing that you cannot help Minnie through her sorrow at this most sorrowful time in her life. You are part of this family of Girls and you need each other at this time. Kathy, Webster NY

  7. sherryheim Avatar
    sherryheim

    What sad and shocking news to lose such a young and strong elephant as our sweet-sweet Lottie. I have the TES calendar here in my office and Lottie is the centerfold girl for the month. I was just looking at her before I came here and read the news. I worry for Minnie, she has had such a hard life and it just never did set well with her…she just closed up and got tough. I hope she will find a way to move forward and perhaps, having already lost Queenie, she will have a better understanding and acceptance. Thank you for posting this, Carol, and thank you for sharing your wonderful photos of our sweet girl. I am so glad that you still have those to keep “The Girls” close to you and to keep their memories fresh in your heart. I am so sorry for your loss, Carol and especially saddened that you cannot be there for Minnie as she goes through this difficult time.
    Namaste…Celebrate the light that is life.

  8. SueTexas Avatar
    SueTexas

    I am deeply saddened to hear of Lottie’s passing. I am also heartbroken that you did not get to visit with Lottie before her death. The one person that ABSOLUTELY should have been there was you.

  9. Ann Avatar
    Ann

    Dear Carol,
    Thank you for your beautiful, reminiscent tribute to Lottie. As is true of all the Girls, you know her better than any other human ever has or ever will. I hope it is of some comfort to you that you have many, many friends and supporters who are standing beside you in this time of cherished memories and personal loss of our dear family member.

  10. Rachel Avatar
    Rachel

    What a beautiful tribute. Lottie was one of the lucky ones. Four and a half years of peace and comfort in sanctuary. My heart breaks for dear Minnie. I hope that she will be able to reestablish a relationship with Debbie & Ronnie.

  11. Help an Elephant Avatar
    Help an Elephant

    Carol, as always your heartfelt writing has brought the elephants right to me. I can see you and Lottie, her trunk reaching for your hand to resume her massage. What a perfect story of her calm, loving nature.

    My heart breaks for Minnie. Once again she has lost a friend, this time her anchor. She’s a fragile spirit hiding inside a tough exterior. I too hope that she can find a way to let Debbie and Ronnie help her through her grief.

    Although you and Minnie cannot be together right now, please know that many hearts are holding you both dear.

    Sending loving energy to you,

    Barbara

  12. hazeyou2 Avatar
    hazeyou2

    xo

  13. Laurie V. Avatar
    Laurie V.

    I’m saddened to hear of Lottie’s passing. And I’m sorry you didn’t get a chance to say good-bye.

  14. Lisa Wellman Avatar
    Lisa Wellman

    I am so sorry. Thank you for keeping us updated.

  15. starling Avatar
    starling

    Thanks for Lottie. I can almost remember, almost feel myself massaging her tusks. I hope she didn’t suffer.

  16. rakshaming Avatar
    rakshaming

    Carol, your hat looked so cute on Lottie’s back. I’m so sorry to hear Lottie’s passed away. I hope Minnie will be alright. Thanks for keeping us all so informed.

  17. magnolia8 Avatar
    magnolia8

    Carol,
    Your writing about Lottie and your photos make me feel as if you are at The Elephant Sanctuary. This week has enlightened us and I’m feeling hopeful you are on a journey for all of us that will return you to your home, having gathered a huge following of fans to understand your goal support your cause. Your patience has taught me to live looking more in the Kairos time and expect great miracles are on their way. Lottie is now another of your Ele-Angels and we can never have too many Angels surrounding us. Bless you.

  18. Lesley Avatar
    Lesley

    I’m glad Lottie was able to die in a beautiful pasture in the shade of a tree without chains on and near her best friend, and with all of the spirits of living and departed elephants to comfort her.

    In her last years, she lived and passed as any sentient being should. Free and with friends.

    Your fond remembrance helps me feel more connected to Lottie. Thank you.

  19. Caite Avatar
    Caite

    Thank you again, Carol. I’m so glad I stopped here and found that you had written a beautiful, heartfelt and soulful tribute to Lottie. Your insider’s perspective helps me have a clearer understanding of Lottie and her relationship to Minnie and the other Divas. I was surprised to learn her age as I had thought she was older. I hope what was said about her being found with a peaceful expression on her face is true as well as the report about Minnie not seeming to be too affected though that doesn’t seem possible given the closeness of the two of them. She may not be able to grieve for whatever reason.

    You are the heart and soul of TES and something intangible is definitely missing whenever I visit the website, something beyond my conscious knowledge of what has taken place in regards to you. I really hope that this issue gets resolved soon as the work you so lovingly began seems to be at a standstill. I know, patience. Just know that I am one of your many devoted fans.

    with warm regards always

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